Divorce

You have suspicions, things have not been right in your marriage for a while now.

It used to be that you were always in the wrong, you spent time in the same place but not really together and she didn't seem to care about anything much at all. Sex is a memory. The only thing you have in common is repeating the same old arguments.

Now she has told you "she doesn't feel she loves you anymore", she is spending more time out and she's not comfortable if you're around when she's on the computer. And she's tidied herself up a bit. No wonder you're worried! Just the thought of infidelity makes you feel hurt and angry, specially after some of the things she's said.

But what if you're wrong. Maybe there are new things at work, maybe her mother/sister/aunt really does need her help right now. If you accuse her of having an affair and you're wrong, your marriage is doomed. It was bad before, it's bad now, that would finish it for sure.

They say ignorance is bliss but it doesn't feel that way when you're lying awake at 3 o'clock in the morning. Is she unfaithful, having a secret affair? Who is this guy and what is he doing to her? You've got to know one way or the other. What's a man to do?

Don't ask me how I know this, OK? But there is a way, a discreet way, you can find out if she's cheating on you without her sensing that you're checking up on her. You gotta keep your cool. Evidence first, decisions second. And remember, if you do find out she's cheating you still stay quiet. You want to dump her, divorce her? Do it on YOUR terms. Take time to arrange your affairs, plan your moves, then spring. So now is NOT the time to show your hand.

The first thing to do is Sebastian Lawrence's cheat catching techniques, but I give 10/10 to Glen Houston. Decide for yourself, but I like Glen's style and I reckon you get more useful tools from him.

A final word. Marriages can recover from infidelity. True, but that may not be an easy idea to swallow right now. The whole attraction of a secret affair is that it's secret. Exposed to the light she too will probably find it more sordid than erotic… and want you back. And maybe she is too good to loose. So keep your options open. Get the facts, plan for a range of possible outcomes and whatever you do, don't rush into things and don't say too much too soon.

If you're new here, you may want to subscribe to my RSS feed. Thanks for visiting!